STOP...!

I just have to say something.
So, stop sekejap citer pindah-pindah ni.



First, they proposed every weekend off for maids.
Second, the other "they" banned Indonesian maids from coming to Malaysia.

I totally disagree about the every weekend off tu, especially when the maid tu macam maid Mak Lijah, Putiha. Dah lah bab mengemas rumah tu fail, asyik terperap dalam bilik jer. Got worst since she got married last year. When we tried to hire a new maid, dapat pulak yang gatal buat maksiat kat rumah Mak Lijah. So I fired her. Datang balik Putiha, who is not of much help lately. Kerja dah jadi opposite. Instead of her helping me with the house chores, Mak Lijah pulak yang helped her with the chores.

Tiap-tiap minggu minta off, even before the policy is declared. So bila dia off, Mak Lijah take over lah kerja rumah. Not a problem. Tapi menjadi problem when she left her undies in the washing machine for me to deal with...!!!!!!

Cakap nak pergi hari Jumaat, I said wait till all the children and I are back home (which means petang lah). Petang Ahad, suami dia telefon kata dia sakit. Kenapa dia tak boleh cakap sendiri?

So Monday tu dia tak ada, lah. Danisy had to tumpang rumah neighbour while I rushed back from office (during lunch break) with lunch. I had to rely on my neighbour. Nasib baik neighbour ni adores my children and are willing to do anything for the children. Tapi sampai bila I can rely on them? Malu dah sebab banyak kali jadi macam tu.

And now we have moved. Neigbours tak berapa ada lagi. Pak Lijah terpaksa ambil emergency leave on Monday while on Tuesday and Wednesday, had to rush back at 10.30 am and wait till 2.30 pm to send and pick-up the children from school. Mak Lijah pulak, sampai rumah pukul 7.30 pm. Start dengan memasak, menghidang, basuh pinggan, memesinkan baju, sidai baju, gosok lima pasang uniform...saaaaaammmpailah pukul 1 pagi. Next day bangun pukul 5 pagi sebab nak prepare breakfast, mesin baju, sidai baju etc. And this is the routine for the whole week sebab Putiha went on the unapproved-extended-eight day leave.

Best part is, semalam, dia suruh Mak Lijah menjemput dia di 'kongsi' suaminya kat Shah Alam.

SO HOW CAN I SUPPORT THE CALL FOR EVERY WEEKEND OFF???


And now they are being irrational, blaming Malaysian employers as mistreating their nationals. Although it is true that there are cases of ill-treatment by employers, they must also be made aware that the nationals they are exporting aren't angels too... Ada yang sampai bunuh employer. Is that well covered in their media? What about employers who are emotionally abused dengan maid yang gatal buat maksiat, menggoda laki orang, mencuri, merosakkan harta benda majikan, bergayut kat telefon berjam-jam, mesyuarat tingkapnya...

Bukan semua semua employer kejam dan bukan semua maid tu bagus. Mak Lijah ni kira bersabar lah juga sebab Putiha dah 10 tahun kerja dengan kami. Dah boleh masak menu yang budak-budak suka. Cumanya dia dah terlalu complacent sampai dah tak reti nak mengemas dan dah tak mahu buat apa-apa arahan baru. Kalau majalah-majalah or mainan budak-budak bersepah-sepah tak tersusun, maka macam tu lah keadaannya selama seminggu sehinggalah Mak Lijah menjerit-jerit berleter (Mak Lijah sengaja tak kemaskan sebab nak test tengok berapa lama majalah2 tu nak berterabur). Tak pernah nak menyapu, mop dapur 2 minggu sekali, habuk-habuk tak pernah dibersihkan, gosok uniform ala kadar dengan kedut seribu etc. I end up doing all that myself. So siapa tolong siapa ni? Adoilaaa....

So.. angel sangat ke diorang ni?

We're here...!

Dah masuk 16 hari kami berpindah ke sini. Ahamdulillah everything went well except for a few unsetteld business yang membuatkan Mak Lijah's blood go upstairs, the rest just fell into the right places.

Macam-macam berlaku within the last 16 days yang betul-betul testing. But today, I really felt good, waking up in my own house. Rasa macam malas jer nak keluar ke mana-mana.

Official day of pindah was 12 Jun. Two days before tu, the packers came to the house to pack everything. Oleh sebab Mak Lijah tak dapat cuti (sebab bos sendiri nak cuti), I had to quickly rush home. Tak sempat nak selamatkan beberapa item yg Mak Lijah rasa are important and kena ada dengan Mak Lijah setiap masa.

Finally at about 5.30 pm, we finished packing and headed towards BBB. Sebelum tu, singgah dulu amik udang galah yang diimport khas...

We arrived at about 7.30 pm just to find that they haven't even reached unloading a quarter of the first lorry. We tried as much to arrange everything in order but there were just too many boxes and big items like sofa, meja makan, cabinet jati, 2 queen-sized bed, 2 single beds, 1 double decker, TVs, empat almari and the list just go on and on. Mak Lijah pun rasa tak selesa sebab my dream white kitchen tak berapa siap lagi, no sink etc.

At about 11.00 pm, I told the packers to continue the next day. Mak Lijah tengok packers tu dah tak larat nak mengangkat barang-barang. Dah ler berat belaka, kena naik tangga yang winding, tiga tingkat pulak tu. And so they left at 11.30 pm selepas Mak Lijah tengok mandurnya ber'mesyuarat' dengan pekerja-pekerjanya.

Tension nya. Letihnya.. Malam tu tidur macam balak...

It's Time

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After months of agony going through the spell, we are nearing one of the significant event in our lives. They may not be directly linked but it's just time to move on. Move on spiritually and physically.
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THIS IS SO RELATED...

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Bila dilanda musibah
Hati tabah mula rebah
Jangan biarkan dugaan
Rapuhkan pedoman hidup

Andai waktu itu tiba
Semaikan sifat bersabar
Hanya Dia saja menentu
Dan kita hanya mampu sujud

Jika direnung kembali
Dari kehidupan
Pelbagai halangan kutempuh penuh cabaran
Tiada satupun ku hadapi dengan senang dan
Tiada satupun ku hadapi dengan tenang

Tapi ku bersyukur
Di saat ku murung
Ku musikkan dalam kedua telapak tangan
Semangat yang dah luntur
Harapan yang dah terkubur
Diberi arah tukku teruskan

Pernah kulihat mereka
Yang hilang segalanya
Insan yang tersayang
Atau harta benda
Pancaroba bencana juga malapetaka
Adalah sebahagian ujian dunia

Di sebalik kesusahan
Tidak letih mengerti erti kesenangan
Harusku akur dengan apa yang telah dikurnia
Barangkali esok semua berubah

Janganlah kita melupakanNya
Ketika langit cerah bersinar
Janganlah kita melupakanNya
Ketika langit mendung tak bercahaya



Hanya mampu sujud…..

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Dugaan Ini

Daripada Suhibul Raumi berkata, sabda Rasulullah SAW,

“Betapa ajaibnya orang yang beriman itu. Sesungguhnya semua perkara adalah baik bagi mereka. Dan tiadalah kebaikan itu kecuali bagi mukmin. Jika memperoleh kegembiraan dia berterima kasih bererti kebaikan baginya dan jika ditimpa kesulitan dia bersabar bererti kebaikan baginya.” (Hadis riwayat Imam Muslim)




Sesungguhnya sebagai seorang hamba, Mak Lijah hanya mampu pasrah dan reda dengan dugaan ini. Pun begitu semangat juang Mak Lijah tak akan luntur kerana sifat pasrah dan reda tidak dimiliki oleh orang munafik kerana orang yang menentang ketetapan serta suratan Allah tidak tergolong dalam golongan yang beriman.




Rasulullah SAW bersabda bermaksud:

“Dari Abu Hurairah, sabda Rasulullah SAW: Jika engkau terkena oleh sesuatu musibah, maka janganlah engkau berkata: Andai kata saya mengerjakan begini, tentu akan menjadi begini dan begitu. Tetapi berkatalah: Ini adalah takdir Allah dan apa saja yang dikehendaki oleh-Nya tentu Dia melaksanakan-Nya, sebab sesungguhnya ucapan andai kata itu membuka pintu godaan syaitan.” (Hadis riwayat Imam Muslim)




Dugaan dan ujian yang sedang Mak Lijah lalui kini adalah suatu frasa kehidupan yang paling hebat, rumit dan sukar yang pernah Mak Lijah tempuhi sepanjang hayat Mak Lijah. Dugaan ini telah menghampiri kemuncak sehinggakan nyaris keputusan sudah sampai di hujung lidah. Ketika itulah amat penting bagi Mak Lijah menentukan pertimbangan sama ada terus menghadapinya dengan cekal, berikhtiar dan berusaha menyelesaikan segala kekusutan ataupun menyalahkan takdir semata-mata.

Mak Lijah benar-benar keliru dan tak faham, kenapa manusia sering mengambil kesempatan ke atas diri orang lain... Mengapa mesti ada sifat dengki mendengki dan iri hati sesama kita? Tidak cukupkah dengan apa yang mereka dah ada selama ini? Mak Lijah terkilan bila kejujuran manusia disalah gunakan...

Mak Lijah terkejut, tergamam dengan ketaksuban dan ke'terdesakan' manusia ini (jika benar dia manusia, atau dia sebenarnya syaitan bertopengkan manusia) yang tidak berhati perut yang mengambil peluang untuk kepentingan diri sendiri demi memusnahkan kehidupan orang lain. WHAT THE BLOODY HELL...!!! WHAT RIGHTS DO THEY HAVE TO MESS-UP MY LIFE...???..!!!!

And I have decided that I am going to face it, deal with it, and end it MY WAY.

Do not mess with me.

I have warned you...

Question: What is a Midlife Crisis?

This is taken from http://divorcesupport.about.com/od/isdivorcethesolution/f/midlifecrisis.htm which I found to be a very good reading material for a person like me who is so curious about this issue.

Enjoy..


Someone once said to me "if it weren’t so cliché I'd think I was having a midlife crisis." There is nothing cliche or trite about a midlife crisis. If you talk to middle aged men and women who have experienced divorce you will find that many of them will tell you their spouse changed overnight. Became someone who discarded all that was once important to them for a new life that was all about what they wanted.

A midlife crisis is experienced between the ages of 40 and 60. It was first identified by the psychologist Carl Jung and is a normal part of the maturing process. Most people will experience some form of emotional transition during that time of life. A transition that might cause you to take stock in where you are in life and make some needed adjustments to the way you live your life.

Most seem to come through the process smoothly without making major life changes. For some a midlife crisis is more complicated. It can be an uncomfortable time emotionally which can lead to depression and the need for psychotherapy. Those who have a hard time with this transitional stage might experience a wide range of feelings, such as:

• Unhappiness with life and the lifestyle that may have provided them with happiness for many years.
• Boredom with people and things that may have been of interest to them before.
• Feeling a need for adventure and change.
• Questioning the choices, they have made in their lives and the validity of decisions they made years before.
• Confusion about who they are and where they are going.
• Anger at their spouse and blame for feeling tied down.
• Unable to make decisions about where they want to go with their life.
• Doubt that they ever loved their spouse and resentment over the marriage.
• A desire for a new and passionate, intimate relationship.

Most people who have a difficult time during midlife and go into crisis mode do so because of external factors. They may be experiencing stress in their life that makes the transition more difficult or they may have childhood issue that were never dealt with that come to the surface during this time. Some external factors that may cause this time in life to be problematic are:

Debt:
It is easier to accumulate debt due to the availability of credit cards and loans. We are bombarded by credit card companies and it is easy to find yourself with large balances owed. We live in a society where it is commonplace to be living above our means. Finding yourself middle aged, in debt and facing retirement can add stress to an already stressful time in life. A normal reaction would be to seek help from a debt management company or consolidate your loans. A person who is finding it difficult emotionally during midlife might find it easier to walk away from their family in order to rid themselves of what they feel is the cause of all the debt.

Significant Loss:
The death of a parent or family member can cause grief, which is difficult enough to come to terms with, without having to also cope with the feelings of a midlife transition. Put the loss of a loved one with the feelings that accompany midlife and the whole process becomes bewildering and overwhelming.

Avoidant Personality:
If a person has a tendency to avoid conflict in their personal relationships, suffers from feelings of inadequacy, are emotionally distant and has low self – esteem they will find midlife transition harder to navigate. This personality type has a deep fear of feeling shame and rejection. Such feelings will keep them from seeking help should their emotions become overwhelming. More than likely, they will run from their problems instead of trying to find solutions to them. It’s this personality type that normal ends up in divorce court during midlife.




Whether there are external factors that make the process more difficult or not, there is an internal process that is gone through. If a person lacks understanding of the process, they may find themselves making irrational decisions they may later regret. Decisions such as leaving a job, divorcing their spouse and throwing away the security that they have built up during the first part of their life.

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